JEFF HARRY'S

POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY PLAYLIST

I believe that play is as important as breathing, sleeping, and love.  It's where so much of our happiness, fulfillment, and creativity comes from. 

JEFF HARRY

Welcome to the Positive Psychology Playlist!  

Inspired by the Flourishing Center's Certified Applied Positive Psychology Program, the goal is to gamify positive psychology modules, so you can incorporate them into your everyday life.  If you'd like to cultivate more of a certain aspect of positive psychology, click on the link below and try one of the play challenges.  Observe what occurs for you through the play.  Share your results with the Rediscover Your Play Tribe, tag @jeffharryplays on Instagram or Twitter.

 

It promises to be a fun, adventurous, and fulfilling ride.

 

Special Thanks To Louis Alloro and the CAPP.65 Los Angeles Cohort!    

Positivity Psychology

Aspects of Fixed & Growth Mindset


Two Mindsets, Carol S. Dweck Ph.D

  • People with a fixed mindset believe their abilities are established and can’t change much regardless of how hard they try.
  • People with a growth mindset know that they can learn and grow if they invest enough effort.
  • Mindsets become self-fulfilling prophecies. If you think you can improve you will and vice versa
  • Mindsets are learned and can be changed.
Mindset, The New Psychology of Success, Carol S. Dweck Ph.D.




Fixed Vs. Growth Mindset Play Challenges


INDIVIDUAL PLAY CHALLENGE

  • For one day, observe every time you have a fixed mindset thought and log the ways in which that fixed mindset limits you
PLAY CHALLENGE WITH FRIENDS
  • For one week, Ask your friends to point out places where you are have a fixed mindset and choose one that they will remind you of to work on
OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE PLAY CHALLENGE
  • Pick one area where you have a fixed mindset. For one month, challenge yourself to devote time to change your perspective on that area to a growth mindset. Journal about your experience.





Find Your Inner Genius

Through Play

POSITIVITY 

Fixed Vs. Growth Mindset

Aspects of Fixed & Growth Mindset


Two Mindsets, Carol S. Dweck Ph.D

  • People with a fixed mindset believe their abilities are established and can’t change much regardless of how hard they try.
  • People with a growth mindset know that they can learn and grow if they invest enough effort.
  • Mindsets become self-fulfilling prophecies. If you think you can improve you will and vice versa
  • Mindsets are learned and can be changed.
Mindset, The New Psychology of Success, Carol S. Dweck Ph.D.




Fixed Vs. Growth Mindset Play Challenges


INDIVIDUAL PLAY CHALLENGE

  • For one day, observe every time you have a fixed mindset thought and log the ways in which that fixed mindset limits you
PLAY CHALLENGE WITH FRIENDS
  • For one week, Ask your friends to point out places where you are have a fixed mindset and choose one that they will remind you of to work on
OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE PLAY CHALLENGE
  • Pick one area where you have a fixed mindset. For one month, challenge yourself to devote time to change your perspective on that area to a growth mindset. Journal about your experience.





Choice Map

האם המתקן בטיחותי?


המתקן הינו בטיחותי ואנו שמים דגש רב על בטיחות במתחם, המתקן עומד בכל התקנים הישראליים והאירופיים. ריתמות הבטיחות הינן מהסוג הטוב ביותר שקיים בשוק, בעלות אבטחה כפולה.




משך זמן פעילות


משך זמן הפעילות הוא כשעה וחצי לסבב ברכישת כרטיס רגיל/משפחתי/ילדים. לקבוצות, ימי הולדת וימי גיבוש - תבנה פעילות מותאמת אישית.




הוראות בטיחות


  1. יש להגיע בנעליים מותאמות לפעילות ספורטיבית - נעל סגורה (עדיף נעל ספורט/הליכה). לא תינתן כניסה לפעילות במתקן בסנדלים/כפכפים (כולל סנדלי שורש, נעלי עקב וקרוקס).
  2. שיער ארוך אסוף בגומייה (סיכות מתכת או פלסטיק מסכנות מבקרים אחרים כאשר הן נופלות מגובה).
  3. חל איסור מוחלט על העלאת אביזרים אישיים מכל סוג אל המתקן (בקבוקי שתייה, טלפונים ניידים, מצלמות, מפתחות, שעוני יד, צמידים, שרשראות וכד'). *ניתן לאבטח משקפיים בחוט ולדאוג שהם ישבו מתחת לרצועות קסדת הבטיחות.
  4. התאמת גובה המבקר במתקן הכרחית ליכולתו ליהנות במתקן. מסיבה זו נקבעו גבהי סף:
    1. ילדים מגובה 1 מטר ועד 1.25 מטר יכולים להיות רק בקומת הקרקע (בליווי מבוגר אחד לילד וללא תשלום).
    2. ילדים מגובה 1.25 מטר ועד 1.4 מטר יכולים לעלות אל הקומות 1 עד 4 כל עוד זה בליווי מבוגר (מלווה כרוך בתשלום כרטיס רגיל), שיתפעל ויעזור להם באופן צמוד בכל אלמנט אליו הם רוצים לעלות (גם נער בן 17 יכול להיחשב כמבוגר לצורך ליווי ).
    3. מגובה 1.4 מטר ומעלה ניתן לנוע במתקן באופן חופשי בכל ארבעת הקומות. (יש לקחת בחשבון ככל שעולים בקומות רמת הקושי עולה)

ההקפדה על תנאים אלו כמו גם ההקשבה לדברי המדריכים והציות להוראות הבטיחות, הם המפתח לפעילות מהנה ובטוחה במתקן.

משך הפעילות במתקן היא שעה וחצי וכוללת גם את הלבשת רתמת הבטיחות וההדרכה.

מלווה בקומת הקרקע אינו נדרש בכרטיס ומלווה בקומות העליונות נדרש ברכישת כרטיס.




היכן מיוצר המתקן?


המתקן במקורו מיוצר בגרמניה וכולל מספר פטנטים רשומים. כמו כן, מתקנים שכאלו אשר יוצרו על ידי החברה הגרמנית הותקנו בהצלחה במדינות רבות בעולם: גרמניה, ארה"ב, רוסיה, ספרד, שוויץ, הונגריה ועוד וכעת גם בישראל!




למה רק מגובה 1.4 מטר, אפשר לעלות על המתקנים בקומות העליונות ללא מלווה?


כבלי האבטחה אליהם מחובר/ת המטפס/ת ממוקמים גבוה ורצועות הרתמה של המטפס/ת אינן מספיק ארוכות בשביל לספק תנועה חופשית וגורמות לקשיי תפעול ותנועה חופשית על המתקן. הדבר גורם לתקיעת המטפס/ת באמצע המתקנים, משאירות אותו תלוי באוויר בחוסר נוחות ותחושת תסכול. מלווה מבוגר וגבוה שמסייע למטפס/ת הנמוך מ 1.4 מטר, מאפשר תנועה רציפה על המתקנים והנאה מן האתגר.




למה מבוגר אינו יכול ללוות יותר משני ילדים בקומות העליונות?


נהלי הבטיחות קובעים כי העלייה על כל מתקן מותרת רק לאדם אחד בו זמנית, או שניים במקרה של מבוגר המלווה ילד. מסיבה זו מבוגר המלווה שני ילדים, ינוע על המתקן כאשר ילד אחד לפניו וילד אחד מאחוריו- על כל מתקן הוא יעביר ראשון את הילד/ה שלפניו, יחזור ויעביר את הילד/ה שמאחוריו. כך הוא ינוע בקלות ובמהירות יחסית שלא תפריע ותגזול את ההנאה משאר המטפסים שבסמוך לו. כמות של מעל שני ילדים עשויה ליצור עיכוב בתנועת שאר המטפסים והדבר בהנאה שלהם- יש להתחשב בהם, גם הם שילמו עבור השהייה במתקן.




למה אסור לעלות עם צמידים, שעונים וטלפונים ניידים למתקן?


דברים נופלים! למרות שלרוב השעונים / צמידים, יש אבזם סגירה, החיכוך בכבל האבטחה, או בחבלים של אחד המתקנים, עלולים לפתוח / לקרוע את רצועת השעון / הצמיד ולגרום להם ליפול למטה והדבר נכון גם לגבי טלפונים ניידים וכל דבר אחר הנמצא בכיסים. קיים סיכון שהשעון / טלפון נייד או חפץ אחר שהשארנו בכיס, ייפול על ילד / מבוגר הנמצאים בקומת הקרקע- גם חפץ קטן וקל לכאורה הנופל מגובה רב על ראש / פנים של אדם עלול לגרום לפציעה קשה. כיוון שלא מפלים בין המבקרים, הכלל אחיד לכולם (גם לאלו שיש להם כיסים מאובטחים.




מדוע צריך נעליים סגורות גם בקיץ ולמה סנדלי שורש לא מספיק בטוחות?


לפעמים מחליקים / מועדים כשעוברים מתקן. החיכוך של כף הרגל על הכבל ללא כיסוי מלא, עלולה לפצוע את העור ולגרום לפגיעה וכאב. גם סנדלי שורש / נעלי קרוקס אינן מבודדות מספיק את כף הרגל ולכן הן המטפס/ת לא יכול/ה לעלות איתם על המתקן.




מדוע השהייה במתקן מוגבלת לשעה וחצי בלבד?


המתקן יכול להכיל מספר מוגבל של מבקרים והדבר מחייב לקיים סבבים המוגבלים בזמן. מצאנו כי בשעה וחצי (כולל הלבשה והדרכה), המטפס/ת יכול/ה לחוות מספר סביר של מתקנים, להוציא מספיק מרץ ולנצל את הזמן בהנאה רבה.




הוראות בטיחות ותפעול מסלול הילדים


הגבלות:

גובה מינימאלי: 1 מטר. (ממוצע גילאים 8-3 שנים) גובה מקסימאלי: 1.25 מטר. כניסה רק לאחר תדריך ועם ציוד מתאים.

שימוש:

ניתן לנוע רק בכיוון אחד החבל אליו קשורים הילדים הינו רציף ואין צורך להחליף חבלי בטיחות כניסה ויציאה למתקן רק בנקודות ההתחלה והסיום .לרוב ילדים יצטרכו לעבור את כל המסלול מההתחלה עד הסוף. במקרה חירום ניתן לצאת בכל נקודה במסלול בעזרת מדריך.




הוראות בטיחות ותפעול במפלסי הפארק


  • על המבקר לא לשנות כלום באופן לבישת ציוד המגן אחרי שהמדריך בדק אותו.
  • בכל פעם שמורידים את ציוד המגן האישי (לדוגמה בעת הליכה לנוחיות) על המדריך לוודא
    לבישת הציוד מחדש.
  • מבקר שיקפוץ על חבל הבטיחות יוזהר ,מבקר שיחזור על פעולה זו יורחק מהפארק.
  • אין לעשן כלל בשטח הפארק.
המתקן הינו מתקן ספורטיבי .לפיכך ,רק מי שיכול לעקוב אחר הוראות המדריך מבחינה פיזית ונפשית רשאי להשתמש בו.
  • השימוש במתקן אסור בהחלט ל:
  • אדם תחת השפעת סמים ואלכוהול.
  • אנשים הסובלים מבעיות בריאותיות מסוימות ,לדוגמה בעיות גב/עמוד שדרה בעיות מפרקים ,לחץ דם גבוה או בעיות הלב וכלי הדם.
  • נשים בהריון.
  • אדם השוקל מעל 120 ק"ג.
  • ייתכן ויהיו קיימים מגבלות נוספות לאלמנטים מסוימים אשר הורכבו במתקן.
  • אדם או קבוצה אשר לא יישמע/ו להוראות המדריכים או יפריעו לפעילות של אחרים יש להרחיקם בהקדם ממתקן החבלים ומהפארק.




האם צריך לתאם הגעה מראש?


עדיפות הכניסה היא למזמינים מקום מראש, ללא הזמנה מראש הכניסה תהיה על בסיס מקום פנוי. הזמנה מראש מקצרת משמעותית את ההמתנה בכניסה ומבטיחה את מקומכם. לרכישת כרטיסים ותיאום הגעה, לחצו כאן





Luck

Press Your Luck


The Luck Factor, Richard Wiseman Lucky or unlucky people are responsible for much of their fortune through their thoughts and behaviors. 4 Basic Principles of Lucky People

  • They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities
  • Make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition
  • Create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations
  • Adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good




Luck Play Challenges


INDIVIDUAL PLAY CHALLENGE

  • For a 48-hour period, log every good experience that happens to you, regardless of whether it is big or small
  • Each time, something good happens, ask yourself with curoisity: How Can It Get Any Better Than this?
  • Journal about the result
PLAY CHALLENGE WITH FRIENDS
  • Gather a group of your friends and prime each other by saying that you will have a lucky outing
  • Have the group point out and celebrate every time some unexpected positive action occurs (whether it is big or small) and be curious about where that leads
OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE PLAY CHALLENGE





ENGAGEMENT

Savor

Aspects of Fixed & Growth Mindset


Two Mindsets, Carol S. Dweck Ph.D

  • People with a fixed mindset believe their abilities are established and can’t change much regardless of how hard they try.
  • People with a growth mindset know that they can learn and grow if they invest enough effort.
  • Mindsets become self-fulfilling prophecies. If you think you can improve you will and vice versa
  • Mindsets are learned and can be changed.
Mindset, The New Psychology of Success, Carol S. Dweck Ph.D.




Fixed Vs. Growth Mindset Play Challenges


INDIVIDUAL PLAY CHALLENGE

  • For one day, observe every time you have a fixed mindset thought and log the ways in which that fixed mindset limits you
PLAY CHALLENGE WITH FRIENDS
  • For one week, Ask your friends to point out places where you are have a fixed mindset and choose one that they will remind you of to work on
OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE PLAY CHALLENGE
  • Pick one area where you have a fixed mindset. For one month, challenge yourself to devote time to change your perspective on that area to a growth mindset. Journal about your experience.





Flow

Finding A State of Flow


Dr. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Father of Flow What is Flow?

  • State of intense absorption: “In the zone.”
  • Feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity
  • “A psychological state that accompanies highly engaging activities.”
Frequent Flow correlates with:
  • Life satisfaction
  • Achievement
  • Better health
  • Creativity
Components of Flow:
  • The task is challenging and requires skill
  • We concentrate
  • There are clear goals
  • We get immediate (an unambiguous) feedback
  • There is a sense of control
    • A balance between skill and challenge
    • Mental focus or strenuous exercise
    • Intrinsic Motivation
Flow State Triggers: Steven Kotler, The Rise of Superman: Decoding the Science of Ultimate Human Performance Psychological triggers
  • Goal clarity
  • Immediate feedback
  • Challenge to skills ratio
  • Intense concentration
Environmental triggers
  • High consequences
  • Rich environments
  • Deep embodiment
Social triggers
  • Serious concentration
  • Clear, shared goals
  • Good communication
  • Familiarity
  • Equal participation and skill level
  • Risk
  • Sense of control
  • Close listening
  • Always say yes
Creative triggers
  • Creativity




Flow Play Challenges


In order to find our flow, we must create the conditions for a flow state to occur. INDIVIDUAL PLAY CHALLENGE

  • Journal about your Ikigai/Zone of Genius
    • Ask these questions (From The Book: The Big Leap By Gay Hendricks)
    • WHAT DO I MOST LOVE TO DO?
      • I love so much I can do it for long stretches of time without getting tired or bored
    • WHAT WORK DO I DO THAT DOESN'T SEEM LIKE WORK?
      • I can do it all day long without ever feeling tired or bored
    • IN MY WORK, WHAT PRODUCES THE HIGHEST RATIO OF ABUNDANCE AND SATISFACTION TO AMOUNT OF TIME SPENT?
      • Even if I do only ten seconds or a few minutes of it, an idea or a deeper connection may spring forth that leads to huge value
      • Whatever it is, find it and I want you to put the highest priority on doing some of it every day
    • WHAT IS MY UNIQUE ABILITY?
    • There is a special skill I’m gifted with
      • This unique ability, fully realized and put to work can provide enormous benefits to me and any organization I serve
PLAY CHALLENGE WITH FRIENDS
  • Ask your friends the following questions:
    • When have you seen me most alive?
    • When have you seen me the happiest?
    • What is one ability that I have that makes me truly unique?
    • What is one way in which I can contribute to the world that could have a tremendous impact?
  • Based on the answers to these questions, determine if there is a unifying thread between the answers and if so, come up with a plan to pursue that flow experience
    • Example: Your friends share that you are an amazing writer, so you decide how you are going to devote X amount of time per week on writing or you'll choose to attend a writing retreat
  • OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE PLAY CHALLENGE
    • For one month, once you identify your Ikigai/Zone of Genius/Flow State, you commit to devoting a certain number of hours a day attempting to cultivate this state/experience
      • Each day, log your progress on tapping into this flow state as well as your happiness/fulfillment levels after each day, as they may fluctuate
      • By the end of the month, share with your friends what you have been able to create and/or cultivate and how you feel about the entire process
      • Take a risk to trust the universe and do whatever is necessary, regardless of how absurd or silly it may be, in order to tap into this flow state
        • You find that you write better after dancing by yourself, do it
        • You like to wear silly outfits because it puts you in a creative mindset, do it
        • You find skipping to bring you more happiness than simply walking, do it





RELATIONSHIPS

Love

Purpose


Meaning vs. Purpose Research: George & Park (2013) sought to understand the difference between meaning and purpose. They found that they are distinctly different. A SCIENTIFIC GUIDE TO HUMAN FLOURISHING • Meaning: subjective experience of feeling that life fits into a larger context and has signifi-cance; it connotes a sense of comprehension and life as a whole makes sense. Purpose: an overall sense of goals and direction in life. However, they are strongly correlated. And they are both important! Purpose may be more vulnerable to adversity than meaning. Meaning positively correlates with Post-traumatic growth (a topic we’ll talk about later) and negatively correlates with post-traumatic deprecation (doing worse and struggling after trauma). • Purpose did not correlate with these factors but it did positively correlate with positive affect, optimism and life satisfaction. It negatively correlated with negative affect, pessimism and depression. What is Purpose? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” RALPH WALDO EMERSON Purpose is: ”Stable and generalizable intention to accomplish something that is at once mean- ingful to the self and leads to productive engagement with some aspect of the world beyond the self.” (Damon, Menon & Bronk, 2003) Purpose is: “An intentional and cognitive sense of life, or determination to accomplish some end (social contribution). Purpose is both directional and other focused.” (Keyes, 2011) Purpose is: “Purpose is a central, self-organizing life-aim.” (McKnight & Kashdan, 2009) “Purpose is the active way you uniquely impact the world.”




Meaning Challenge


INDIVIDUAL PURPOSEFUL PLAY CHALLENGE Explore Your Play History To Find Answers To Your Purpose In order to identify how you want to play now, we must tap back into how you played as a child #1. List the ways you loved to play as a child & why you enjoyed playing that way Your Play Why You Enjoyed Playing In That Way #2. Are there ways you played as a child that can be linked to what you enjoy doing now? If so, how? Your Play As A Child (Ex. Playing Dress Up) Your Play Now (Ex. Costumes/Cos Play) How Are Your Past & Present Play Connected (Ex. Creating a persona with fabric & creativity) #3. What do you most love to do, where you can do it for long stretches of time without getting tired or bored? #4. Based on your answers to #2 & #3, what are some ways you can play now that get you excited? How can you incorporate them into your every day life? Action Item: Now try your answers to #4 for one month and see if you feel any difference PURPOSEFUL PLAY CHALLENGE WITH FRIENDS Play Storming With Friends #1. Ask your closest friends to meet to figure out how they can help you play more • Tell them it is a play storm consulting session and you the client for the day
• Make it an event, providing whatever is necessary to loosen everyone up so they can be relaxed and comfortable enough to come up with creative ideas for you (I.e. Food, beverages, etc.) • Bring large post-its to write on and markers • Be sure to pick a scribe that isn’t you Rules for the Play Storm: • Have a scribe jot down the ideas on post-its, preferably one question per post it
• There are no wrong answers during the play storm, so whatever your friends share is posted • You are NOT allowed to interrupt • You are there to listen and ask questions
• If your friends give you love and appreciation, you must try to receive it, even if it feels awkward listening to all those kind words in a single sitting #2. Once everyone has gathered, is relaxed and comfortable, ask them to answer these questions of you: • What are the attributes that you most appreciate about me? (I.e. Creative, giving, etc.) • What are the times when you have seen me most happy?
• When you have you seen me most being myself?
• When was the last time you saw me play? • For your childhood friends, do you remember how most liked to play as a kid? #3. After all these questions have been answered, circle the attributes and the ways you most like to play from the post-its. Then, based on the One Risk Away Motto and answer this question below. One Risk Away Motto: You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it. - Benjamin Mee, We Bought A Zoo What are the adventures you have always wanted to do, but you have been too scared to try? (Ex. Getting lost abroad with just $10 in hand, diving with sharks, writing a novel, perform on stage, etc.) #4. On a final post-it, write down all the ways you want to play now, rank them, and ask your friends how they can help you make your top choices a reality?
Be as specific as possible. You want to travel to a specific destination in the next year. • Together you figure out how to all go, pick dates that day, and book the trip You only play with your kids, so your friends identify a Parent’s Night Out every month If the play brainstorm works, decide who you will do the next play storm for.





MEANING

Purpose

Purpose


Meaning vs. Purpose Research: George & Park (2013) sought to understand the difference between meaning and purpose. They found that they are distinctly different. A SCIENTIFIC GUIDE TO HUMAN FLOURISHING • Meaning: subjective experience of feeling that life fits into a larger context and has signifi-cance; it connotes a sense of comprehension and life as a whole makes sense. Purpose: an overall sense of goals and direction in life. However, they are strongly correlated. And they are both important! Purpose may be more vulnerable to adversity than meaning. Meaning positively correlates with Post-traumatic growth (a topic we’ll talk about later) and negatively correlates with post-traumatic deprecation (doing worse and struggling after trauma). • Purpose did not correlate with these factors but it did positively correlate with positive affect, optimism and life satisfaction. It negatively correlated with negative affect, pessimism and depression. What is Purpose? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” RALPH WALDO EMERSON Purpose is: ”Stable and generalizable intention to accomplish something that is at once mean- ingful to the self and leads to productive engagement with some aspect of the world beyond the self.” (Damon, Menon & Bronk, 2003) Purpose is: “An intentional and cognitive sense of life, or determination to accomplish some end (social contribution). Purpose is both directional and other focused.” (Keyes, 2011) Purpose is: “Purpose is a central, self-organizing life-aim.” (McKnight & Kashdan, 2009) “Purpose is the active way you uniquely impact the world.”




Meaning Challenge


INDIVIDUAL PURPOSEFUL PLAY CHALLENGE Explore Your Play History To Find Answers To Your Purpose In order to identify how you want to play now, we must tap back into how you played as a child #1. List the ways you loved to play as a child & why you enjoyed playing that way Your Play Why You Enjoyed Playing In That Way #2. Are there ways you played as a child that can be linked to what you enjoy doing now? If so, how? Your Play As A Child (Ex. Playing Dress Up) Your Play Now (Ex. Costumes/Cos Play) How Are Your Past & Present Play Connected (Ex. Creating a persona with fabric & creativity) #3. What do you most love to do, where you can do it for long stretches of time without getting tired or bored? #4. Based on your answers to #2 & #3, what are some ways you can play now that get you excited? How can you incorporate them into your every day life? Action Item: Now try your answers to #4 for one month and see if you feel any difference PURPOSEFUL PLAY CHALLENGE WITH FRIENDS Play Storming With Friends #1. Ask your closest friends to meet to figure out how they can help you play more • Tell them it is a play storm consulting session and you the client for the day
• Make it an event, providing whatever is necessary to loosen everyone up so they can be relaxed and comfortable enough to come up with creative ideas for you (I.e. Food, beverages, etc.) • Bring large post-its to write on and markers • Be sure to pick a scribe that isn’t you Rules for the Play Storm: • Have a scribe jot down the ideas on post-its, preferably one question per post it
• There are no wrong answers during the play storm, so whatever your friends share is posted • You are NOT allowed to interrupt • You are there to listen and ask questions
• If your friends give you love and appreciation, you must try to receive it, even if it feels awkward listening to all those kind words in a single sitting #2. Once everyone has gathered, is relaxed and comfortable, ask them to answer these questions of you: • What are the attributes that you most appreciate about me? (I.e. Creative, giving, etc.) • What are the times when you have seen me most happy?
• When you have you seen me most being myself?
• When was the last time you saw me play? • For your childhood friends, do you remember how most liked to play as a kid? #3. After all these questions have been answered, circle the attributes and the ways you most like to play from the post-its. Then, based on the One Risk Away Motto and answer this question below. One Risk Away Motto: You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it. - Benjamin Mee, We Bought A Zoo What are the adventures you have always wanted to do, but you have been too scared to try? (Ex. Getting lost abroad with just $10 in hand, diving with sharks, writing a novel, perform on stage, etc.) #4. On a final post-it, write down all the ways you want to play now, rank them, and ask your friends how they can help you make your top choices a reality?
Be as specific as possible. You want to travel to a specific destination in the next year. • Together you figure out how to all go, pick dates that day, and book the trip You only play with your kids, so your friends identify a Parent’s Night Out every month If the play brainstorm works, decide who you will do the next play storm for.





ACHIEVEMENT

Visualization

Aspects of Fixed & Growth Mindset


Two Mindsets, Carol S. Dweck Ph.D

  • People with a fixed mindset believe their abilities are established and can’t change much regardless of how hard they try.
  • People with a growth mindset know that they can learn and grow if they invest enough effort.
  • Mindsets become self-fulfilling prophecies. If you think you can improve you will and vice versa
  • Mindsets are learned and can be changed.
Mindset, The New Psychology of Success, Carol S. Dweck Ph.D.




Fixed Vs. Growth Mindset Play Challenges


INDIVIDUAL PLAY CHALLENGE

  • For one day, observe every time you have a fixed mindset thought and log the ways in which that fixed mindset limits you
PLAY CHALLENGE WITH FRIENDS
  • For one week, Ask your friends to point out places where you are have a fixed mindset and choose one that they will remind you of to work on
OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE PLAY CHALLENGE
  • Pick one area where you have a fixed mindset. For one month, challenge yourself to devote time to change your perspective on that area to a growth mindset. Journal about your experience.





VITALITY

Physical Activity

Aspects of Fixed & Growth Mindset


Two Mindsets, Carol S. Dweck Ph.D

  • People with a fixed mindset believe their abilities are established and can’t change much regardless of how hard they try.
  • People with a growth mindset know that they can learn and grow if they invest enough effort.
  • Mindsets become self-fulfilling prophecies. If you think you can improve you will and vice versa
  • Mindsets are learned and can be changed.
Mindset, The New Psychology of Success, Carol S. Dweck Ph.D.




Fixed Vs. Growth Mindset Play Challenges


INDIVIDUAL PLAY CHALLENGE

  • For one day, observe every time you have a fixed mindset thought and log the ways in which that fixed mindset limits you
PLAY CHALLENGE WITH FRIENDS
  • For one week, Ask your friends to point out places where you are have a fixed mindset and choose one that they will remind you of to work on
OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE PLAY CHALLENGE
  • Pick one area where you have a fixed mindset. For one month, challenge yourself to devote time to change your perspective on that area to a growth mindset. Journal about your experience.





VIA Strengths

Purpose


Meaning vs. Purpose Research: George & Park (2013) sought to understand the difference between meaning and purpose. They found that they are distinctly different. A SCIENTIFIC GUIDE TO HUMAN FLOURISHING • Meaning: subjective experience of feeling that life fits into a larger context and has signifi-cance; it connotes a sense of comprehension and life as a whole makes sense. Purpose: an overall sense of goals and direction in life. However, they are strongly correlated. And they are both important! Purpose may be more vulnerable to adversity than meaning. Meaning positively correlates with Post-traumatic growth (a topic we’ll talk about later) and negatively correlates with post-traumatic deprecation (doing worse and struggling after trauma). • Purpose did not correlate with these factors but it did positively correlate with positive affect, optimism and life satisfaction. It negatively correlated with negative affect, pessimism and depression. What is Purpose? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” RALPH WALDO EMERSON Purpose is: ”Stable and generalizable intention to accomplish something that is at once mean- ingful to the self and leads to productive engagement with some aspect of the world beyond the self.” (Damon, Menon & Bronk, 2003) Purpose is: “An intentional and cognitive sense of life, or determination to accomplish some end (social contribution). Purpose is both directional and other focused.” (Keyes, 2011) Purpose is: “Purpose is a central, self-organizing life-aim.” (McKnight & Kashdan, 2009) “Purpose is the active way you uniquely impact the world.”




Meaning Challenge


INDIVIDUAL PURPOSEFUL PLAY CHALLENGE Explore Your Play History To Find Answers To Your Purpose In order to identify how you want to play now, we must tap back into how you played as a child #1. List the ways you loved to play as a child & why you enjoyed playing that way Your Play Why You Enjoyed Playing In That Way #2. Are there ways you played as a child that can be linked to what you enjoy doing now? If so, how? Your Play As A Child (Ex. Playing Dress Up) Your Play Now (Ex. Costumes/Cos Play) How Are Your Past & Present Play Connected (Ex. Creating a persona with fabric & creativity) #3. What do you most love to do, where you can do it for long stretches of time without getting tired or bored? #4. Based on your answers to #2 & #3, what are some ways you can play now that get you excited? How can you incorporate them into your every day life? Action Item: Now try your answers to #4 for one month and see if you feel any difference PURPOSEFUL PLAY CHALLENGE WITH FRIENDS Play Storming With Friends #1. Ask your closest friends to meet to figure out how they can help you play more • Tell them it is a play storm consulting session and you the client for the day
• Make it an event, providing whatever is necessary to loosen everyone up so they can be relaxed and comfortable enough to come up with creative ideas for you (I.e. Food, beverages, etc.) • Bring large post-its to write on and markers • Be sure to pick a scribe that isn’t you Rules for the Play Storm: • Have a scribe jot down the ideas on post-its, preferably one question per post it
• There are no wrong answers during the play storm, so whatever your friends share is posted • You are NOT allowed to interrupt • You are there to listen and ask questions
• If your friends give you love and appreciation, you must try to receive it, even if it feels awkward listening to all those kind words in a single sitting #2. Once everyone has gathered, is relaxed and comfortable, ask them to answer these questions of you: • What are the attributes that you most appreciate about me? (I.e. Creative, giving, etc.) • What are the times when you have seen me most happy?
• When you have you seen me most being myself?
• When was the last time you saw me play? • For your childhood friends, do you remember how most liked to play as a kid? #3. After all these questions have been answered, circle the attributes and the ways you most like to play from the post-its. Then, based on the One Risk Away Motto and answer this question below. One Risk Away Motto: You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it. - Benjamin Mee, We Bought A Zoo What are the adventures you have always wanted to do, but you have been too scared to try? (Ex. Getting lost abroad with just $10 in hand, diving with sharks, writing a novel, perform on stage, etc.) #4. On a final post-it, write down all the ways you want to play now, rank them, and ask your friends how they can help you make your top choices a reality?
Be as specific as possible. You want to travel to a specific destination in the next year. • Together you figure out how to all go, pick dates that day, and book the trip You only play with your kids, so your friends identify a Parent’s Night Out every month If the play brainstorm works, decide who you will do the next play storm for.